6) I saw my parents this morning

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To day, my family and me spent half a day doing prayer to my ancestors and deceased parents. The little Buddhist temple located at Paya Lebar road, where tranquil and serenity lived.

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This is the place for holding the prayer for the deceased and the tablets. My parents are somewhere at the left near the front.

But strangely, I couldn’t see them!

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I walked to the back yard, saw a young papaya tree waved and said hello to me.

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And walked further, asked Phalaenopsis,” where are my parents?”

She just smiled at me in return.

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I asked the pearl drop, do you know where are my dearest parents?

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I approached the aging bench.

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I feel a balmy and gentle hand pat on my shoulder, and I looked up.

I saw daylight resting on the leaves. I saw them!

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Dad and Mom said:” son, not to worry about us! We have friends, many friends here! You should take good care of yourself and live meaningfully each day!”

I kept nodding in sob.

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Raindrops witnessed and shared with me this moment.

My dearest Dad and Mom, I missed you!

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112 thoughts on “6) I saw my parents this morning

    Angeline M said:
    January 21, 2013 at 1:10 am

    Our departed parents and family are always with us Sydney. We just have to listen for their voices. I think they continue to guide us, and love us, from the other side. You did see them in the papaya tree, the flowers, the bench, the leaves and light….they wanted you to see that beauty, and you did!

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 1:19 am

      Thanks Angeline! You are always so close to me! I am really glad I have a blogger friend like you! 🙂

    arjun bagga said:
    January 21, 2013 at 1:10 am

    Awesome images! love’em all.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 1:21 am

      Thanks! and Happy Chinese New Year in advance! 🙂

    Jamie Dedes said:
    January 21, 2013 at 1:14 am

    This is a dear and sweet post, Sydney. With your permission, I would like to post this here:
    http://intothebardo.wordpress.com/
    I will include all appropraite links, credit, and so forth.
    I’ll come back and look for your response.

    Warmest regards,
    Jamie Dedes

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 1:25 am

      Hi! Jemie, is my honor somebody repost my post!
      Of course, I am happy and I’m sure sweet dream is with me tonight!
      Wish you be well and happy!

      Cheers!
      Sydney

        Jamie Dedes said:
        January 21, 2013 at 5:28 am

        Thanks, Sydney!
        It will post on Wednesday, January 23.

        In metta,
        Jamie

    Life&Ink said:
    January 21, 2013 at 1:29 am

    It is no doubt your parents were wonderful people as they have a thoughtful, kind and compassionate son. 🙂

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 1:50 am

      Thanks, you are always so encouraging! I’m glad I have a friend like you!

        Life&Ink said:
        January 21, 2013 at 2:08 am

        As am I Sydney!

    Our Adventure in Croatia said:
    January 21, 2013 at 1:38 am

    very beautiful and moving post, Sidney

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 1:48 am

      Mr C and Ms E., thanks! You are always so kind to me!

    katrina said:
    January 21, 2013 at 1:55 am

    Sydney..I shared the same feelings with you…I wish you a strong heart..
    I’ve lost my dearest father as well…

    but I believe they ( your parents and my father) are all in good care…where ever they are… :’)

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 2:01 am

      Yes, yes! May be they are at somewhere chit chatting about us! 🙂
      Thanks, Katrina! You warm my heart!

        katrina said:
        January 21, 2013 at 2:03 am

        Yaa..who knows..hehe that’s enlightening.. 🙂
        Thank you Sydney…you’ve warmed mine too..

        Sydney Fong responded:
        January 21, 2013 at 2:33 am

        Am I a heater?

        Good night! zzzzzz

        katrina said:
        January 21, 2013 at 2:35 am

        hehehe :p

        Good morning.,.I’m sure Singapore and Kuala Lumpur’s time are at not much different… 🙂

        Sydney Fong responded:
        January 21, 2013 at 2:39 am

        Oops, Sydney can’t escape from somebody!
        In that case I got to go for my morning jog now!
        See you!

        katrina said:
        January 21, 2013 at 2:40 am

        heyy..its too early for jogging now and its bad for your lungs as well..take a short nap and go after 6am, okay..I always do that 🙂

        Sydney Fong responded:
        January 21, 2013 at 2:45 am

        Gosh, somebody help me! How to live in peace?
        Sleep in peace and jog in peace!

        katrina said:
        January 21, 2013 at 8:20 am

        hahaha 😀

    parth893 said:
    January 21, 2013 at 2:10 am

    So beautiful Photos 😀

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 2:26 am

      Thanks Parth! Your photography skill are so much better than mine!
      Seriously, i just pick up my camera and doing a layman show!
      More to learn from you and many many great Blogger out there!
      Have a nice week! Cheers!

    bert0001 said:
    January 21, 2013 at 2:13 am

    Great to be able to share in your beautiful experience .. thank you!

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 2:29 am

      Thanks Bert! Compare to your writing I’m far off behind!
      I better speed up! 🙂

    Leisa said:
    January 21, 2013 at 2:50 am

    Oh Sydney, that was so beautiful, I love your writing

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 9:46 am

      Thanks Leisa! You allow me to go further!

        Leisa said:
        January 21, 2013 at 12:10 pm

        YES!

    lilyboat said:
    January 21, 2013 at 2:53 am

    This is sad, yet beautiful and hopeful. Thank you for sharing your experience. I think many people share what you feel and would be comforted by this beautiful post and nature pictures. Nature is the great healer. May God bless you and your deceased parents, and your family.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 9:49 am

      Thanks, Lily, I wish you be well and happy in returns!
      Let’s not live in the past but leaving the past behind! Cheers!

    sonamsangmu said:
    January 21, 2013 at 4:56 am

    That was beautiful, Sydney! I’m so glad you found your parents today so you could share a moment together. Thank you for letting us share in your experience a little bit.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 9:57 am

      Sydney is a quiet and low profile person. He always guard around his secret garden, play with the greens and dirt.
      Thanks for reading my post, I wish you Healthy and Happy forever! 🙂

        sonamsangmu said:
        January 21, 2013 at 10:06 am

        Thanks Sydney!

    keiththegreen said:
    January 21, 2013 at 5:12 am

    Sydney I know what you mean, my parents have been gone for over a decade now. Yet to this day, I can still hear the advice they would have given me on any situation. Your use of photos to share your feelings adds depth to your words.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 10:03 am

      My parents and yours could be playing Manjong in heaven!
      Let’s not disturb them at the moment.
      Haha! But I wish they could hear our conversation! 🙂
      Thanks, Keith! Hug, hug!

    thoughtsfromanamericanwoman said:
    January 21, 2013 at 5:26 am

    How sad and yet beautiful I do agree with lilyboat, I hope it brings you comfort knowing they are happy. My parents have been gone for over 30 yrs now and they will remain alive in my heart always. Blessings – Patty

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 10:08 am

      Thanks Patty! You are always be my comfort companion!
      I treasure our friendship very much!

        thoughtsfromanamericanwoman said:
        January 22, 2013 at 8:49 am

        thank you – friends come into our life for a reason some for a season and some for a lifetime…glad you are a part of my life too. 😀

        Sydney Fong responded:
        January 22, 2013 at 10:25 am

        I am the seasonal but within the 4 seasons! Haha!
        Sydney always like to take life easy!
        Hope you understand me!
        I like to joke around!

        thoughtsfromanamericanwoman said:
        January 23, 2013 at 9:58 am

        😀 I understand you perfectly – life was made to enjoy.

    mixedupmeme said:
    January 21, 2013 at 6:14 am

    A beautiful post.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 10:09 am

      Thanks, meme! Let’s dance! Yahooo!

    Nourishing Chow said:
    January 21, 2013 at 6:58 am

    A very touching post….

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 10:11 am

      Thanks, Chow! I am stealing your recipe bit by bit!
      You are almost empty now!
      Cheers, wish you happy and grace forever!

    nightlake said:
    January 21, 2013 at 8:10 am

    a beautiful and meaningful tribute to your parents..

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 10:14 am

      Thanks, Nightlake!
      I love your Canary since the beginning of my journey!

        nightlake said:
        January 21, 2013 at 10:16 am

        a snap from the Jurong Bird Park:))) Thanks to the Bird Park:)

        Sydney Fong responded:
        January 21, 2013 at 10:20 am

        And thanks to the Birds keeper! 🙂

    chris13jkt said:
    January 21, 2013 at 9:40 am

    Beautiful and touching, Sydney. It reminds me to my late father as well. Like you, I still missed him. But I believe that like your parents, my father don’t want me to mourns forever. There is life that we have to face with high spirit.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 10:17 am

      Thanks, Chris! Yes, no point mourning things has already gone! Let’s leave the past behind and look forward!
      Have a great week ahead! Cheers! 🙂

    Bernice said:
    January 21, 2013 at 10:38 am

    A very touching post Sydney…. Brought a tear to my eye….

    ryan said:
    January 21, 2013 at 12:54 pm

    Wow. I read it and my tears fall. I really feel what you wrote. About your late parents. I feel the same about my late dad. thank you for sharing.
    NB: the picture are beautiful.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 7:54 pm

      Thanks, Ryan! You are so kind ! 🙂

    qiquan said:
    January 21, 2013 at 1:18 pm

    Yesterday I watched Les Miserables, I have tears in my eye at the end of the movie. When Li Ka Shing talked about his father who passed away many decades ago, his voice trembled. I am sure, for our heart with so much love for our parents, their departs are always felt like as if have happened yesterday. I wept as I was taking the bus to Choa Chu Kang graveyard on 9 Jan, the date when my father passed away. I walked into to columbarium after 6 pm. The sunset was so beautiful, and the field is curving dotted with wonderful trees. I could not for thinking them and weeping on my way, and even when I am writing now.

    Wonderful post.

    kc
    Sorry that I have not been writing anything yet.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 8:03 pm

      Hi KC, I am always be your fan! Your poems is so pure and beautiful.
      To reach you standard I believe time is the most curial thing.
      For that, I can’t hold a candle to you!
      You are really great! I wish could have more people get to know you!
      Get to know there is a soft and gentleman around us.
      believe me or not, I truly envy your writing skill!

      Regards
      Sydney Fong

        qiquan said:
        January 21, 2013 at 9:44 pm

        Dear Sydney,

        I am suddenly in the mist to have so many good words from you. There are so many things I need to learn in this journey of life. I will do my best to keep contributing to happiness of good souls our there =)!

        kc

        Sydney Fong responded:
        January 21, 2013 at 9:53 pm

        I won’t praise a person without any solid ground!
        You are really great!My friend!
        Keep going, I’m watching you! Haha! Cheers!

        qiquan said:
        January 21, 2013 at 9:55 pm

        My heartfelt thanks, Sydney.
        kc

    Long Life Cats and Dogs said:
    January 21, 2013 at 6:18 pm

    So sad but so beautiful. I am glad to hear that they are happy and have friends and I’m sure that it helps to bring some form of peace but it never helps the yearning to have them back and the fact that we miss our loved ones who have passed over.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 8:11 pm

      Truly, I was quite sorrow at that moment, But when the sunlight touches the grape leave, I was relief!
      I know somethings has pass thru me, somethings are leaving me!
      But I am okay, this is life! Up and down, laughter and sadder ….
      Thanks, may the force be with you and your cats and dogs! 🙂
      Sydney is back to normal fun!

    cristinasandru said:
    January 21, 2013 at 8:10 pm

    Hello Sydney, I hope you will be strong and have faith that your parent’s souls are with you… no matter where they are because their memories and their souls are with you forever, certainly! Have faith and take care of yourself!

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 8:18 pm

      Sydney is “normalize” now! That was my yesterday scene, I am now back to normal!
      Anyway thanks for your consoles and encouragements!
      You are always one of my favorite neighbor!
      How I wish I can serve you tea or coffee! 🙂
      Have a great day,Cristina!

        cristinasandru said:
        January 21, 2013 at 8:27 pm

        Hi, Sydney, I am glad you are ok now, there are some days when it’s good for us to think about the most important things in life and remember the past, after that we have to be strong and go further, I know how it is… I think life is like a puzzle, every memory is a part of a beautiful puzzle which it will be finished at the end of our lives… Thank you for your kind words too, it would be nice to drink a green tee :). Have a beautiful day! Cristina

        Sydney Fong responded:
        January 21, 2013 at 9:19 pm

        Thanks! 🙂

    Photography Journal Blog said:
    January 21, 2013 at 9:32 pm

    This is a lovely post, thanks for writing it.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 9:54 pm

      Thanks, you are really a nice person!

    leandra said:
    January 21, 2013 at 10:09 pm

    So sweet Sydney… I too, have lost a parent, my dad. But he’s always in my heart. I talk to him all the time – in my prayers, in my dreams, in my solitude… I believe that even if I don’t see him, he somehow guides me, in my daily life.

    Cheers to our parents in heaven, i know they’re smiling at us from there, 🙂

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      Thanks, hope they will not get tire over our gossiping about them!
      Thanks again! You are my inspiration! Cheers!

    TBM said:
    January 21, 2013 at 10:12 pm

    A touching post. And it’s wonderful that you shared it. All of us should remember those that we’ve lost and how we love them.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 21, 2013 at 10:15 pm

      Thanks, believe it or not, this is the final year of my 50 years project!
      I have to celebrate with you! Let’s keep in touch! 🙂

    likeitiz said:
    January 21, 2013 at 11:40 pm

    Oh, Sydney, my heart goes out to you. I will be visiting my parents in a few days. They are still alive, living in Manila. They are both in their 80’s now. My dad is not well. He had a stroke about 10 years ago and he is a cancer survivor. But he’s wheelchair-bound and can’t do much these days. My mother, on the other hand, is healthy and still very active.

    I will hug them often and a lot when I get there!

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 22, 2013 at 12:40 am

      Treasure every single minute with them which I’m sure you will do it!
      And hug them, love them and obey what they demand!
      This is what they want which I’m sure you will do it too!
      Thanks, likeitiz! Send my regard to them, and wish them be well and happy!
      Which I’m sure they will!

    yusrche said:
    January 22, 2013 at 2:14 am

    Hi Sydney…family is everything for us ..what ever we sad and happy …Chiness New Year is coming soon ..So be closed to them …enjoy it..HAPPY CHINESS NEW YEAR 2013.

    Bye..

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 22, 2013 at 10:31 am

      Yes! This is what Sydney always do! In fact, Sydney organized a weekly walk a park for the family.
      Thanks, I wish you Happy Lunar New Year in advance! Huat ah!

    evilnymphstuff said:
    January 24, 2013 at 1:07 am

    Aww this is a cute and touching post! Parents… the most precious people in our life!

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 24, 2013 at 2:10 am

      Indeed! Thank you, have a nice day! 🙂

    Indira said:
    January 24, 2013 at 11:54 am

    Very beautifully written post, you made me remember my parents. Beautiful photographs to go with it. Very touching indeed.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 24, 2013 at 12:33 pm

      Thanks, that is all I can offer to them! Hope they see me and bless me! 🙂

    Jennifer Flint ~ The Aura Reader said:
    January 24, 2013 at 12:19 pm

    This is very sweet, and you’re quite right to think your parents are with you. Love goes on forever! 🙂

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 24, 2013 at 12:31 pm

      Jennifer, thanks! I do believes aura! I know I have long way to go but I’ll do my best for just a small rim will do! 🙂

    natuurfreak said:
    January 27, 2013 at 10:42 pm

    Your post touch my heart.In Belgium they say.”Persons are never dead as long we are thinking to them.So you feel it deep in your heart..they are with you for always.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 27, 2013 at 10:57 pm

      Thanks, I always feel that they are guiding me somewhere!
      And I wish them rest in peace in the heavenly land!
      Your have a great day, let’s keep contributing good post base on our Mom land, out planet!
      Cheers!

    futuredoll said:
    January 31, 2013 at 8:28 pm

    You know your parents are always with you, they have to be so proud of this post too!

      Sydney Fong responded:
      January 31, 2013 at 8:49 pm

      I’m sure they saw me there too!
      Thanks for reading my post! Have a great day! 🙂

    yinyin said:
    February 4, 2013 at 2:50 pm

    Even I understand this is the rule of life ,of nature, a road which we all have to face someday – no exception, I still find it’s horrible when thinking of the day that my parents will leave me – alone – in this huge world ! I’m not that kind of strong, but I will try to be ^ – ^ when the time comes !

    p/s : why do you have to find them place to place while they are in your heart already , no matter where you are ^ – ^ ?

      Sydney Fong responded:
      February 4, 2013 at 3:04 pm

      They are not always in my heart, beacuse I am not always my true self! And sometime we wouldn’t be able to hear them, feel them while we were in the mist of journey!

    yinyin said:
    February 4, 2013 at 4:11 pm

    I haven’t been through this life much ,it may be quite childlike thinking, but the mist is just temporary – I believe so ^ – ^ no matter how far you get lost , how much you lose youself or how wrong your soul falls – you will always find the way back -as long as you want to ! And you can feel their voices as a part of yours body – in your original heart – again !

    Do you believe in “the life after death” , Sydney ? that our people may make their choices if they want to have a next – brand new life or keep staying in the other world to guard their beloved one ?

    I often pray for those who had left a new good life ,the old memmories will be just fine staying here – in our hearts ^ v ^ if we do have fate , somehow, someday we will meet !

    Waywardspirit said:
    February 5, 2013 at 12:24 am

    You
    Sometimes I only live a slice of the pie of life
    A whole pie of life is most delicious
    When every slice is different pie

    Did you take many
    Slice them up
    Reassemble the many tastes
    Into such a delicious experience of a day
    Every day?
    Me

      Sydney Fong responded:
      February 5, 2013 at 12:48 am

      Not really! I usual take a slice just enough for my size.
      While taking my slice I’ll still look around anyone need my slice.
      If there is, slice will be re-size to smaller size!
      That is why I always maintain this size! Haha!

        Waywardspirit said:
        February 5, 2013 at 12:55 am

        Ha ha!
        A very very small pie just the right size of all the realms of the flavors and mystery of the day. : )
        Okay, I wish for this too.
        *holds Sydney’s Pie*

        Sydney Fong responded:
        February 5, 2013 at 12:59 am

        🙂

    Waywardspirit said:
    February 5, 2013 at 12:25 am

    Sydney
    Living in many worlds at once
    Such sweetness
    Wonder
    Wondering
    Way

      Sydney Fong responded:
      February 5, 2013 at 12:52 am

      You are sweet too!
      Sydney sometime miss you but in life there are so much things to handle.
      Sydney will try his best to be the best for friendship bond! 🙂

    travelerlynne said:
    February 7, 2013 at 8:37 am

    This really touched me. My mother-in-law just passed away and I spent the past two days in her home sorting through her belongings that will be donated. Her spirit and presence was indeed there assuring me of her love and that I was making the right decisions. Beautiful post.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      February 7, 2013 at 11:01 am

      Thanks, we share the world! 🙂

    Pecora Nera said:
    February 7, 2013 at 3:33 pm

    Very moving.

    toad (chris jensen) said:
    February 12, 2013 at 10:52 pm

    You are relentless Sydney! However I do enjoy…

      Sydney Fong responded:
      February 12, 2013 at 11:03 pm

      What? I’m relentless to you? Or relentless to myself? 🙂

    Sherry said:
    February 14, 2013 at 3:32 am

    Very touching and beautiful photos. I love the bench, I photograph them everywhere I go. Thanks for sharing and for stopping by my blog. I am now following you. I am looking forward to seeing more posts.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      February 15, 2013 at 1:07 am

      Thanks, Sherry! Thanks for your compliments and praises.
      Let’s learn and follow each other to make a better day! 🙂

        Sherry said:
        February 15, 2013 at 1:12 am

        I totally agree. I look forward to hearing more from your blog and hope you feel the same about mine. Have a wonderful day.

        Sydney Fong responded:
        February 15, 2013 at 1:13 am

        🙂

    domtakis said:
    February 22, 2013 at 4:50 pm

    So beautiful when those we love pass into the realm you describe here. The poetry of everyday miracles we forget to witness. Thinking of where you parents were led you into that heightened state.

      Sydney Fong responded:
      February 22, 2013 at 9:03 pm

      Thanks, your beautiful descriptions are very hard to forget!
      Have a great weekend, my friend!
      Sydney bless! 🙂

      Sydney Fong responded:
      February 22, 2013 at 9:33 pm

      Thanks for the appreciations and compliments!
      We must love our parents, we must love the earth! 🙂

    littledoglaughed said:
    March 1, 2013 at 12:23 pm

    This is just lovely-the words and the photos have told a wonderful story!
    Thank you too for taking the time to visit my blog-I appreciate it-

      Sydney Fong responded:
      March 1, 2013 at 2:03 pm

      Thanks, we are doggy’s friend! 🙂

    lavernjdewilde said:
    May 5, 2013 at 12:22 am

    Exquisitely beautiful expression, how wonderful such lovely architect of sweet spirit!!!!!!

      Sydney Fong responded:
      May 5, 2013 at 1:13 pm

      What the sweet lovely appreciation from a gentle heart!
      Thank you! Have a great day! 🙂

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